Why Do We Have Sex?
In terms of evolution and for biological reasons, the answer is, of course, reproduction, as a pregnancy will secure the next generation and somewhat our individual existence. But as people continue to engage in longer lasting sex after their children are born, the interest in having sex is evidently not only related to reproduction but to intimacy, sexual pleasure and fun. The decisions to reach orgasm with a partner, rather than masturbating alone, are countless. They are triggered by fundamental cultural, social and interpersonal preferences.
In some cases, sex is also used as tension relief as it can help relieve stress by raising endorphins and other hormones that boost our mood and make us feel relaxed as the body releases the hormone prolactin at the climax, which also helps us sleeping better. There is also the tendency amongst men to link multiple partners with social status, reputation and power, whereas women are more likely to be seen to use sex to gain an advantage either in a relationship or life domain.
Research has found that the way we look at sex and the reasons we choose our partner will change with age. In our younger years, we might seek sex as an experience and practice intercourse with multiple partners to improve and practice our sexual skills. As we get older, we may have learnt that through making interpersonal connections we are less lonely and isolated, thus sex can also be looked at as a social exchange to form a meaningful bond.
After all, sex is the one thing that sets us and our partner apart from being roommates. And it’s the only thing we share exclusively with each other and not with anyone else. Because of that, it becomes a unique way for us and our spouse to express romance, affection and passion for each other.In a healthy intimate relationship, sex is commonly an expression of love and commitment and a way to secure a deep emotional attachment.
It is no secret that a couple that is having a good relationship is usually having good sex too. If they’re struggling in the bedroom, they are usually struggling in their relationship and therapists say that difficulties surrounding sex are one of the most common reasons couples fight in a marriage. Sex is an exercise in communication also, as we should regularly communicate to our partners what we like, what we don’t like and especially at times when there is a health problem interrupting our sex life. It is not uncommon that men who suffer from premature ejaculation are ashamed to talk about it and instead pull away from their partner, where she in turn then feels rejected and the relationship suffers.
Not being able to last longer in bed on a regular basis is not easy to talk about for the man since it is an intimate and vulnerable topic, but not doing so can seriously damage a relationship. If the woman encourages the partner to see a professional for a physical exam and seek early ejaculation treatment, talking about the condition might even bring the couple closer together.
Overall, pleasure and intimacy aren’t the only reasons we should keep getting busy underneath the sheets: the mental and physical benefits of a healthy sex life extend far beyond our bedroom. From a medical point of view, sex is not only good for the mind, a little loving can boost our overall health in many surprising ways. Just like any other physical activity, having sex can actually be considered a rather good form of exercise as it does not only burn calories but reduces the risk of cardiovascular diseases such as heart attack and stroke.